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The Bobster
07-15-2016, 05:59 AM

'Not At All About a Fence': Same-Sex Couple Targeted in Anti-Gay Vandalism Says Neighbors' Lawsuit Broke the Bank
By Morgan Zalot
Published 13 minutes ago

Morgan Zalot / NBC10 / Keith Davis
Keith Davis and David Ruth say they've been victims of discrimination since moving to their home in Avondale in late 2014.

When Keith Davis pulled his truck out of the garage of his stately Chester County home one June morning in 2015, ready to take his two young boys :confused: to summer camp, an ugly message loomed in his rearview mirror, and everything changed.

“Get out FagS!” screamed off his prim beige garage doors, the letters scrawled in blood-red paint and taking up half the doors, and it was clear: The legal battle with neighbors that Davis and his partner :rolleyes:, David Ruth, had been embroiled in for a few months prior -- which they believed was just over a six-foot high fence they installed around their yard that their neighbors didn’t like -- had little to do with the fence.

“We couldn’t believe it,” Davis, 36, recalled, adding that the responding officer from New Garden Police Department, too, was floored by the message of hate. :rolleyes:

“I put the garage doors up” so the kids wouldn’t see it, Davis said. “Thank god I saw it and was able to.”

Davis and Ruth’s home, tucked so deep in the rolling hills of bucolic Avondale that it’s not even visible from the road, should have been a safe haven for the couple and their boys, who are Ruth’s nephews but were placed in the couple’s custody after social services removed them from their parents’ care.

The couple said they bought their house in 2014 and moved there for a fresh start -- a place where their boys :confused:, now ages 8 and 13, could play in the yard with the four family dogs and leave behind the hurt of their biological parents’ struggles with drugs and crime.

But, the pair said, they found only discrimination and hate. First, they said, in the form of the frivolous lawsuit, and later during a months-long campaign of repeated vandalism to their home that included someone using the cover of night to scrawl the slur onto their garage, breaking their security sensors on numerous occasions and twice taking a hacksaw to the white fence that supposedly sparked all this. :D

Innocuous as the dispute seemed in the beginning, Davis and Ruth said they were slow to make any snap judgments of their new neighbors.

“We didn’t want to jump to that conclusion, but it definitely felt over the top,” Ruth, 30, said as he and Davis sat on the sofa in the couple’s living room on a gray Saturday morning recently. “How can you be this upset about a fence you can barely see? Something felt off.”

In the wake of the hate-vandalism, they said they felt unsafe enough that they packed up the boys and left for a summer-long cross-country road trip to escape the home they had just built together. Any question of whether the suit really was about neighborhood aesthetics disappeared when they found the slur etched onto their home, Davis and Ruth said. They knew then it wasn’t about the fence.

Last month, a Chester County judge who heard the neighbors’ case against Ruth and Davis saw it the same way.

After hearing a day of testimony in the case, Judge Jeffrey R. Sommer ruled in favor of Davis and Ruth, saying they can keep their fence and also install a pool they’d previously been denied by a committee of residents in their sprawling 26-house development. Sommer wrote that the committee appeared to selectively enforce the rules when convenient for its members, denying Ruth and Davis things that other houses in the neighborhood had, including their fence.

Sommer took his decision a step further, including in it some scathing remarks about Davis and Ruth’s neighbors hiding behind the fence as an excuse to discriminate against the same-sex couple.

“This case is not at all about a fence,” Sommer wrote.

“There is no doubt that once Mr. Davis’ sexual orientation was discovered, the tenor of the neighborhood interactions changed,” the judge continued later in the decision, also referencing that one neighbor and plaintiff in the suit, Ryan Carpenter, “acknowledged that he would yell ‘other things’ which included homophobic slurs” from outside his home toward Davis and Ruth’s house.

Despite the judge’s ruling, though, Frank Charlton, another of the neighbors who filed the suit, denied that the case had anything at all to do with homophobia.

“Most of my neighbors who were involved or weren’t involved are just disgusted with the way this evolved into a homophobic thing,” Charlton, an original homeowner in the development who moved there in 1999, said. “It is about a fence. It was about a fence.”

Neither Carpenter nor Scott Bonne, the other plaintiff named in the suit as an original filer, could be reached for comment. L. Theodore Hoppe Jr., who represented the plaintiffs, did not return requests for comment.

Charlton dismissed the slur graffitied onto Davis and Ruth’s garage as unrelated to the dispute among the neighbors. New Garden Police investigated the vandalism, but never figured out who is responsible. Davis said he found it an odd coincidence that it occurred in the middle of the night right after he and Ruth received a note in the mail from the development’s committee saying the couple needed to turn off their outdoor security lights because they were causing a glare onto other homes. There are no street lights in the development.

“Nobody’s homophobic. I have a home in Rehoboth,” Charlton said. “No one is homophobic here. It’s simply and truly about a fence.”

But Davis and Ruth don’t see it that way. They said they felt targeted and bullied by the five neighbors who joined the lawsuit together, who happen to live in all of the houses surrounding their property but one. They said the yearlong legal battle that ensued cost them everything, delaying their wedding :confused: and their legal adoption of their boys :eek: and putting them at risk of losing the home they fought so hard to keep anyway.

Nobody's homophobic. I have a home in Rehoboth.Frank Charlton

“That five families had to gang up on one family, it’s cost us more -- not just financially, but also emotionally,” Davis, a soft-spoken man who met Ruth at a party eight years ago, said with a tinge of sadness in his inflection. “I built my company from the ground up. To think I could lose it because of something I can’t control is beyond aggravating.”

Davis owns a company that installs electronic medical records systems. He said that because he’s had to be home to handle problems stemming from the lawsuit and repeated vandalism, his business has lost some of its biggest clients, costing him income. :p

Worse, Davis and Ruth are swimming in legal fees they say have reached nearly $80,000 after the court battle. They’ve filed a motion for legal fees with the court, Davis said, but their attorney warned them that it’s a long shot they’ll recoup any of the money.

Before everything, Davis and Ruth had planned to marry this year :barf9:, and to legally finalize the adoption of their sons. :rolleyes: Ruth said the kids were removed from his brother’s home and placed in his and Davis’ care about five years ago. :mad:

“The whole plan was to get a better house with room for us and the kids, and then be able to get married and finalize the adoption, and it held up all of that, which is heartbreaking,” Ruth said softly as he stood outside the house on a path that runs through a perfectly placed garden of lush flowers and shrubs.

“This has definitely put a halt on everything that was supposed to happen this year,” Davis said.

Neither of the men ever experienced overt homophobia before -- not like this, they said, adding that they were stunned to find it in their quaint suburban enclave, where they said many of the families are young.

For now, Davis and Ruth are trying to move on and doing their best to keep their family afloat up against what they said is a massive financial burden left behind by the lawsuit. They said they’re afraid the neighbors will appeal, costing them even more money they don’t have.

Davis and Ruth say the discrimination they've faced in their neighborhood has affected their family, not just financially, but emotionally, too. (Published Thursday, July 14, 2016)

“Our life savings is gone,” Davis said quietly as he sat on the couch, next to a pile of legal paperwork the case generated, stacked as high as his elbows.

The couple started a GoFundMe page in hopes of getting back some of the money they lost fighting the lawsuit, but said they had to take it down for a short period of time while the legal proceedings were ongoing. It’s back now, though, but only raised about $6,700 of its $77,000 goal. :D

Charlton, who said he joined the suit “as a historical witness of the neighborhood,” insisted that the suit was about nothing other than the aesthetics of the fence, and said he and other neighbors are upset that it’s been made out to be something more, both by Ruth and Davis and in court.

“It’s not about that. I can’t say that enough,” he said.

He added that the neighbors just want to put the battle behind them. “I don’t think we’re all ready to have wine out on the back patio yet, but time heals a lot of wounds,” he said.

But for Davis and Ruth, who say they’ve been made to feel like outcasts in their own home and enemies in their own neighborhood, it may not be so easy. The couple said they’re heartbroken and shell-shocked at what they’ve been through over the last several months, from property damage to court proceedings.

Ruth recalled one claim a neighbor made in court, about how the development used to be an idyllic enclave, where kids and neighbors could walk around the streets with abandon. He questioned why the comments were made in past tense, as if that’s no longer possible.

“Can you no longer walk the streets?” Ruth asked. “Is it because of us?” :rolleyes: